An Echo

An Echo

“so many people are satisfied with shallow communication.”

This is a quote from a dear and distant friend. We sat across from each other in a garish, florescent-lit fast food restaurant, the setting incongruous in every way to our discussion. We spoke of subtle, meaningful things in the most un-subtle, un-meaningful of places. And when she asked me who I really talk to, felt tears flash into my eyes.

We are more connected and yet more alone than ever. We have email, telephones in our pockets, text messages, social networks but these things only fool us into thinking that we’re talking to one another. In reality, we are shouting into the void, our voices bouncing and echoing off one another.

In the weeks since, I’ve concluded that this shallow communication is not what I want and definitely not what I need. No more Facebook, no more buzz. If you want to talk to me, talk to me. It’s a quiet life– sometimes the silence roars in my ears like an ocean– but I feel like I’ve cleared space for something better.

Some may say that this blog is another form of communication. Perhaps. But I enjoy putting a little something out into the world and, on occasion, allowing it to echo back.

[Photo via Gold Fields Foxes]


May 5, 2011 7:04 pm

I hear you there, babe. I once had this awesome conversation with a friend which was basically a “what is art?” and music discussion, and I felt myself getting so excited to have a real conversation for once. I get frustrated with a lot of my friends who barely even let me know what’s going on in their life, let alone talk about real things. Sometimes I look back at relationships and it’s just a bunch of goofing around and fun times, which is okay, but I feel like I don’t even know them. I always chalked it up to age. We’ll see.

I haven’t quit facebook since I joined. It sounds liberating, but there are so many friends I know I would just lose. Doesn’t that sound terrible? But I know it would take, and ask for, a lot more effort to keep in touch with long-distance friends.

“tears flash”… your voice is so beautiful!

May 6, 2011 12:27 pm

thank you for these thoughtful comments!

i’ve had the same experience with some friends where it’s only about having a good time. you keep waiting for it to develop some depth but somehow it never does. of course sometimes people surprise us. i’ve had that happen recently as well.

about facebook, i know i’ve lost people from getting off of it. also, i probably won’t be invited out as much. but, for now, it’s what i need.

May 6, 2011 2:22 pm

You are so dead on with this amazing post. For two months I had no Internet, originally against my will. But as the weeks rolled by I noticed myself calming and becoming less self-absorbed. How is it that something that is supposed to connect you with others, in fact, becomes something that increases your own feelings of self importance?

The TWO times I’ve gotten rid of facebook have been amazing, I think I’m ready to make the plunge again.


May 7, 2011 6:40 pm

isn’t it amazing to discover not just that we can do without certain things but that we’re actually better without them?

yes, we HAVE to get together when you get back! stories, pictures… i want to hear it all! also, that sister of my friend is coming back from living 3 years in italy so it might be nice for you to meet her.

May 13, 2011 4:55 pm

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