A while ago, I sent some friends this article, 20 Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think You Are. Months later, I’m still hearing from these friends how helpful it was. One even passed it on to his mom and she found it helpful as well.
It made me think. We live in a climate where striving for “more” is celebrated– more money, more popularity, more fun, more success. Its the theme of movies and books, both fiction and self-help. Bloggers and Instagrammers are both praised and criticized for setting impossible standards of perfection. So it’s no surprise that in this atmosphere of striving, we forget to congratulate ourselves for all we have achieved.
“You are doing better than you think.” How nice it is to hear those words! But how do we know that statement is true? The article referenced above mentions many practical things such as paying bills on time, being able to afford just a little more than the bare necessities, having a few friends which serve to remind us that we are, as we would like to be, capable, functioning member of society. Three points in particular which stood out to me are:
You have time to do something you enjoy
It doesn’t matter what it is that you enjoy. Maybe it’s sitting on the couch watching a movie. Maybe it’s going for a walk or taking a bike ride. If we have a few moments in our schedule to enjoy our life, we are doing well.
You can sense what isn’t right in your life.
This is so powerful. It gives us permission to feel bad on occasion while recognizing that 1) our inner mechanism to sense right and wrong is working and 2) if we can get past any sorrow and shame, we can move on to doing something about it.
You’re working toward a goal. But you’re not uncompromisingly set on anything for your future.
This statement allows you to accept striving back into your mind but with the caveat that that goal, whatever it may be, is not set in stone. Forward movement should be the goal.
This is something which I will try to keep in mind for my life. That ultimately, there is power in giving ourselves permission to be content with our lives as they are right now.
You are better than you think!